Learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable.
Some of my best moments come from stepping out of my comfort zone.
This one in particular was uncomfortable for many reasons. I had to learn the art of spinning, get comfortable with cardio, find my rhythm & wow the Soul Cycle judges in a 60 second window.
Oh & did I mention practicing for this while sorting through & packing up my 3,000 sq foot house to move to a 1,000 sq ft NYC apartment?
But none of that was as uncomfortable as having to move one week before my husband & daughter so that I could be there for the Soul Cycle audition.
I missed out on saying good bye with my daughter to the house she’d grown up in the last 15 years.
Missed out on walking through the empty house remembering the princess birthday parties, the the Thanksgiving dinners, the leisurely pancake breakfasts with Elliana playing guitar in the background, and making s’mores in the backyard.
Missed out on watching the house get smaller in the rear view mirror as the Penske truck pulled away from the only life she’d ever known.
So why did I choose the Soul Cycle audition over all that? Because my daughter said “Mom, if you don’t go you will always wonder, what if??!!”.
I used to hate running. I wasn’t good at it.
It scared me. Feeling out of breath like my lungs might collapse wasn’t my idea of fun.
So I hired a running coach, Andrea Atkins, who taught me form, breathing & more importantly to believe in myself embracing this new running journey I was on.
I trained with my sister-in-law, Misty, a seasoned runner who I assumed loved every minute of running. One hot Tucson summer morning I was almost in tears saying ‘I hate this, I hate this.’ Misty, said “So do I”.
I thought I heard her wrong. I said “YOU” hate running??? She said “Yes, sometimes, many times; but I like the way I feel after.”
Then she said “Look ahead. See that cactus way up there? That’s what we are running towards.”
Then I did a half marathon. When I saw the finish line a half mile away I sprinted as fast as I could towards it.
Running is now my therapy. Moments of clarity come to me when I run.
This happens to be one of them:
I love to find household items to use in workouts.
This workout uses paper plates as gliders. Cheap & easy! Well, easy to grab the paper plates but not easy exercises to perform.
Watch as my client demos “The Paper Plate Special”
It’s never to late to rewrite your life. I have many times over. My biggest rewrite came after my weight loss journey.
I had no idea how much my story would change. I became a trainer in my forties, and moved to NYC at 48 years old after living in Arizona for nearly 3 decades. I opened up my own successful company at 45 years old.
I ran for PA President of a top Manhattan school at 49 years old & won the election even though I’d never held or ran for office.
I went from being painfully shy to speaking in front of hundreds of people on a regular basis. I found my voice at age 45 & it keeps getting louder.
I changed the characters in my story when needed. During my weight loss journey I could not hang around people who didn’t value or respect my health & fitness lifestyle. It’s no different than an alcoholic getting out of rehab & not being able to hang around her drinking buddies anymore.
When I moved to NYC I knew one person, one “friend”. He encouraged my family to move but when I arrived he became toxic to both me & my family. I held on too long because I thought I needed him since I had no one familiar here.
The familiar—the comfortable—can keep you stuck in jobs, relationships & circumstances too long. My weight loss journey taught me to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
When I finally stepped out of my comfort zone new doors opened even when old doors slammed shut. My life truly began after I lost 80 pounds because I became the main character in my own story.
I decided I had the power to rewrite my life as many times as needed until it was truly my own.
Click on this link to hear more about rewriting your life. You are worth it.
One decision changed the course of our lives. If my daughter had not gotten into Beacon High School I never would have moved here. I also knew if she did get in we were going to give her this opportunity no matter the cost.
I left it in God’s hands and prayed “Ok God I will go where you lead us”. On July 15th I got official notice she got in. We put our house on the market. Aug.4th I was on a plane to move & set up a landing pad for us.
We lost much in the process—a home we had lived in for 14 years, our savings, and the familiarity of a a comfortable suburban life We left behind our family & friends & had to start our careers & life over in a city where we knew only one person.
What we gained is so much more valuable than what we lost: strength as a family, showing our daughter by example that you can do anything you put your mind to, & most important: how to be brave. Thank you fear: without you we couldn’t have been brave.
Do I ever regret it? Yes.
But I would have regretted not doing it so much more.
Click on link below to view more of the story of my unusual way of getting my daughter into this top 10 Manhattan Highschool:
Proud Beacon Highschool Student
Even prouder Beacon Highschool Parent
Legit invite this year
The portal to our new NYC life
2 cups oats
1 small carton egg whites
2 ripe bananas
1 tsp vanilla
Option to add chocolate chips, blueberries, nuts or whatever else you want to mix in.
coconut oil to grease griddle
Mix ingredients in a blender until well blended.
Grease griddle with coconut oil & when hot pour batter onto griddle.
When bubbles appear on top of pancake flip it over.
Top with maple syrup, agave nectar or fresh fruit.
My trainer, Matt Enriquez, gave this workout to me during my 80lb weight loss journey. Now I’m paying it forward : )
Modify by not using weights for the step backs, jumping lunges & high knee presses. Just do lunges instead of jumping lunges. Squats instead of goblet squats. For the squats be sure your weight is on the heels & push butt back like you are peeing in the woods!
Step backs make sure knee stays in alignment with ankle not over the toe!
Make sure you thrust your hips forward aggressively during the swings & squeeze your butt tight.
Lunges keep the knee aligned with ankle.
Pelvic thrust make sure you squeeze your butt tight on way up & pause at the top.
Click the link below the workout to see how I stayed sober on St.Patty’s Day during my weight loss journey.
Earn your corned beef, cabbage & green beer! Or do this as a fasted workout the next morning to burn off all those indulgences.
Click here to find out why St.Patrick’s Day is so special for this sassy polish lass:
I’m always being asked what my skincare routine is, what products I use & how I keep my skin so healthy. The answer is simple. Clean eating plus water. LOTS of water. I carry a water bottle around all day. I drink about a gallon a day. I infuse it with cucumbers, lemon, berries & mint.
Your skin is the biggest organ in your body so you must treat it from the inside out. Just like weight loss, the change happens on the inside first then you see it on the outside.
If you want healthy, dewy, plump, clear skin then change what you put inside your body to see it happen in your skin. People spend mountains of money on expensive skincare products when the best one is sitting for free right in their kitchen sink.
This is a great article on the power of water:
I have a huge sweet tooth. In the beginning of my weight loss journey my trainer banished all sugar & sweet treats from my diet. He told me I was a sugar addict. I suggested just cutting back like a true addict. He said “NO SUGAR”. Not even fruit or fruit juices the first 3 months.
I had to learn self control, detox & clear my mind, body & soul from my sugar addiction. I had to stop turning to sugar to comfort me. I had to peel off not just the layers of fat but more importantly the layers inside. Real change happens inside first then you see it on the outside.
After 3 months I had lost 30lbs & 30 inches off my entire body by eating paleo & exercising 6 days a week. it was my daughter’s first communion which of course required a cake. I ordered very indulgent cake plus cookies from a popular bakery. Those were for our family & friends coming. The non paleo people. The people who made fun of my new found “caveman diet”. The people who said “paleo isn’t real food” which if they had educated themselves at all would have realized paleo is only real food.
My trainer made me my own paleo chocolate cake complete with frosting, the most important part. He gave me 3 slices; one for me, my husband & my daughter. He was smart. He knew willpower was a muscle you need to exercise & that muscle wasn’t strong enough yet to handle an entire cake in my home. He said my home needed to be my safe haven. You can’t eat what’s not there. So on the day of her celebration he handed me the container with 3 slices of cake. Everyone was making fun of my “cake” actually using air quotes to describe it.
My trainer's kind gesture got me through feeling deprived at my daughter’s special occasion & taught me I can actually be satiated with one slice of cake as opposed to the entire cake I used to eat. It’s a very dense rich cake that even I am not capable of eating more than a slice in one sitting. That slice of cake drew more attention than if Martha Stewart baked a cake. Everyone wanted to try a bite to see what “this paleo thing was all about”. They said “wow it actually looks good” & “it even has frosting?”
The same people who had inquired if I was getting a “real cake” were now standing there wolfing down their diabates sugar coma inducing cake AND cookies, yet they were badgering me to try a bite of the one small slice I was allocated.
I told them: hire Matt, pay your dues yourself & earn this fucking piece of “cake” like I have.
Enjoy your cake. You fucking earned it.
Paleo is how I lost 80lbs. My weight loss journey taught me that I don’t have to sacrifice taste to lose weight.
Don’t let the “paleo” part turn you off! If you didn’t see the title & just ate these you’d never even know they were “paleo”! I trick non-paleo peeps all the time!
On my weight loss journey I treated myself on the weekends with these waffles. You don’t need to give up all your indulgences, just tweak them to be healthier.
Easy to make!